When Even Happy Birthday is Too Much Effort

Years ago I worked for a guy who’s birthday was exactly 1 week before mine. Even a third grader can figure out that 1 week equals 7 days and if your birthday falls on the 4th of the month, then mine falls on the 11th of the month.

The whole 5 years that I worked there we all made a big deal about recognizing my boss on his birthday – we hung streamers and balloons in his office, bought a bakery cake and put the right number of candles on it, and gathered in his office on his birthday to sing happy birthday to him and share the cake.

Then, 1 week later, the same celebration was for me. My employees decorated my office, they each threw in a couple of bucks and bought me a big sheet cake – but they had to guess at the number of candles, because I would not ever reveal my actual age – and we knocked off a half hour early for a little party – to which my boss was invited and attended.

After I left that hell hole for a much better position with a career path and big bump in salary, my old boss copped quite an attitude toward me. He acted like I was a traitor for leaving the company, even though I did everything I could to find a way to stay, I picked my successor and trained him thoroughly, and I made myself available by phone for questions for over a month.

Ever since I left, I have sent a birthday card or Facebook greeting to my old boss, wishing him well. But he has never reciprocated nor even thanked me directly for what I did for him. So, after all these years, I quit. I am not going to continue to try to keep a friendship alive that he cares about so little that he cannot even wish me a happy birthday.

I am sure he thinks in his own mind that he deserves all the attention and hoopla and that his lack of reciprocation is OK because he is an executive at the company. Well, it is not OK.

It only takes 10 seconds to post happy birthday on someone’s Facebook wall and Facebook tells you that it is their birthday and give you a link to their wall. If that is too much effort for him, then it is too much effort for me, as well.

No more Happy Birthdays for you, Michael Peacock. You sucked as a friend all these years and I’m done with being the only one who makes an effort to keep the friendship alive. You don’t deserve me.

Birthday Celebrations

My brother has a birthday today – one of the Big Ones. You know what I mean, the number ends with a zero!

I was planning on hanging out with my bro for the night. I was thinking dinner at Outback or someplace nice, and then heading to his house for cake and some presents. I bought him a cool gift that i can’t wait to see him open up.

But evidently his girlfriend has to work tonight and she doesn’t want to celebrate the birthday tonight. They are going to celebrate on Saturday night, instead. So, I’m not the brightest one in the room. I thought that meant we were clear for getting together tonight and doing some guy stuff to celebrate. But no, he says he is not celebrating today – we are invited to a party Saturday night at his house, with him grilling steaks for everyone and she is baking a cake. The cakes are her “thing.” She actually makes them for paying customers and custom decorates them for a hundred bucks or so. I guess we’ll be impressed with what she does for him this weekend.

Waiting until Saturday is not a big deal for me, but I wish I had known earlier. This weekend is the big Fourth of July weekend and most of my buddies were going to be out on the lake all weekend. Now I have to cut the boating short on Saturday so I can clean up and head over to his house for the grill out. And I know he’s going to like this birthday present – can’t wait to see his face when he opens the gift!

The Ideal Birthday

I wonder if anyone but the very wealthy allow themselves to dream of how they would spend the entire day and night on their ideal birthday? I know that I would love to do things as a big splurge for a day and use my birthday as an excuse for all of the excess. But the reality is that I am not independently wealthy and my birthday will be celebrated in a more practical manner. I will also be considering other people besides myself, as they want to spend time with me – or some may prefer not to – their choice!

This year my birthday will be spent sleeping in without having to answer to an alarm clock. That is a big luxury in itself! Then I will have a cup of my favorite, personal blend of fresh brewed coffee. I want to spend time with my dogs, maybe watch a chick flick, and not do a lick of housework. Then for dinner I plan to meet up with a few people at the Japanese restaurant for a dinner cooked to order by a fun, highly skilled chef.

I am really looking forward to this and even with all the other luxuries and possibilities of places to go and things to do, this is my idea of the perfect birthday for me this year.